Dear amai I hope I find you well. I am 37 and my husband is 39. We are blessed with two wonderful children. My husband and I are both secondary school teachers so we have a lot in common. We are based in a town outside Harare. My husband gets on well with a lot of people in our small community.
A fortnight ago, he came back home from a beer-drinking spree with a swollen lip and two missing teeth. The story he told me did not make sense at all but I had no choice but to accept it and help him get better. A few days ago, I got the real story through the grapevine that he got himself involved with one of the ladies of the night and a fierce fight broke out.
I know the lady. Amai do you think it is wise for me to go and confront her? Hospital bills are heavy and I cannot take it anymore.
Response
I am very well and thanks for inquiring. Your letter made my reading very sad. The lifestyle of a teacher should be exemplary. He is a role model to the students and the community at large. It is very demeaning for a man of his stature to fight over another lady when he is married. You got your account from the grapevine, I wonder how accurate it is.
It is not the most credible source. Please do not confront this lady, you will end up in trouble. If the grapevine is telling the truth then your husband’s injuries are just as good as self-inflicted. When your husband has fully healed, I suggest that you go for professional counselling.
This will give him a chance to open up and maybe tell the truth about what really happened. Last but not least continue to take good care of him, two wrongs do not make a right. I would be happy to hear from you again.
