Dear amai I hope I find you well. I am a married woman aged 36 and my husband is of the same age. We are blessed with two beautiful kids. We are both gainfully employed and have an apartment of our own. My husband holds a senior position at his workplace.
The grapevine is awash with the dirty behaviour that has become the norm at his workplace. I asked him several times if he was also part of the mayhem and he refused and said that was news to him. To my surprise I heard that two married women got into a nasty physical fight over him.
I got the news from a very reliable source who wants to remain anonymous. I asked him about it, and he admitted that there was a fight but he was not involved. Please help me, should I speak to these women or let their husbands know the truth? I am hurt and broken.
Response
I am very well and thank you so much for reaching out to me. Your letter made my reading very sad. In this day and age, it is wise to take care of yourself and avoid extra marital affairs. It is very demeaning for your husband to be involved in some office backyard romance considering his position at the company. Given his wayward behaviour, I am forced to ask if you ever went for pre-marital counselling.
You have no business engaging in talk with these women or even their husbands because you have no tangible evidence. The grapevine is not a source to greatly rely on because at times what you deem as factual are half-truths or exaggerations. Do not get yourself into drama which will have ripple effects. There are too many people involved. The best option for you is to go for professional counselling. A professional will help get to the bottom of your marital issues. I would want to hear from you again. I wish you all the best.
