In a heartfelt and candid reflection, a 40-year-old husband opens up about the challenges he has faced in his marriage since the birth of his child. Having been married for nearly two years, the man, who had been in a loving relationship with his wife for over four years before tying the knot, now finds himself in a difficult emotional space. What once was a passionate and fulfilling relationship has, in his words, become strained since the arrival of their baby.
“When I first met her, I thought she was the most beautiful woman in the world,” he shared, recounting how his wife’s beauty and charm once made him feel proud and confident. He recalled how his friends would admire her, and how her appearance boosted his self-esteem. However, after the birth of their child a year ago, things began to change. “The sight of her cleaning the baby’s mess, it’s irritating. I can’t pretend anymore. And it disturbs me even more watching her beauty fade every day.”
The husband also revealed that the couple had initially agreed she would not breastfeed, a decision he felt would help maintain her physical appearance. However, his wife ultimately chose to breastfeed, a choice that has left him disillusioned as he feels her body has changed in ways he finds unattractive. “Even the chest I used to admire is gone, and what’s left is no longer appealing,” he confessed.
As a result of these changes, the man admits he has distanced himself emotionally and physically from his wife. He spends more time outside their home, preferring the company of friends in bars, and has started an affair with a neighbor’s daughter, who he says has captivated him. “At first, I just wanted to satisfy my urges, but now I’ve fallen deeply in love with her,” he said, adding that he is now confused about his future and torn between his marriage and his feelings for another woman.
Despite these struggles, he expresses a deep sense of guilt, stating that he remains with his wife out of pity. “I no longer feel like touching her. She feels more like a friend, or even a fellow man. Now I truly believe that love dies, and I hope anyone can understand my situation.”
His story, though deeply personal, highlights the strain that parenthood and physical changes can place on a relationship. His plea for advice and understanding is a reminder that many couples face emotional and physical challenges after having children. It remains to be seen how this story will unfold, but the complexities of love, self-image, and responsibility are all at play in this husband’s dilemma.
