Dear amai how are you? I am a big fan and I follow your work religiously. I went to an inter denominational women’s conference for a week. We were blessed and there I bumped into a sister who shared the same totem with me and we clicked. As if this was not enough we also discovered that, we stayed in the same neighbourhood.
Amai I regret having accepted this woman as my sister and I am tired of her. She comes to my house whenever she feels like it, regardless of the hour. When she comes over she makes herself feel at home by making coffee or feasting on my kid’s left overs. I am gainfully employed and she is a full-time housewife so our time management is very different. In the six months that we have known each other, I passed through her house once when she was not feeling well.
I do not have much in common with her, I really do not know how to shake her off without rubbing her the wrong way since she is more of a church friend than anything else. Amai please help.
Response
Greetings dear big fan, I am well and thank you for asking. It seems you cannot have your cake and eat it. In principal, culturally you are sisters if you share the same totem. Maybe that is why she feels comfortable with you in your home. In my view, telling someone the truth is the most direct way to solve problems. Address her during one of her visits. Tell her to limit some of her random visits because at times you bring work from the office or you just want to rest after a long day’s work. You also can schedule your visits in turns.
Try to alternate between your home and hers as well. Try this and see how it goes. I would be happy to hear from you Again.
