Dear amai, I am a young man aged 23. I am madly in love with a 20-year-old girl. I have a very strong rural background, and my girlfriend is the exact opposite. I am getting a lot of negative comments from family and friends about how we are two different people. My girl goes around town attending parties and drinking. I do not drink. I have never tasted alcohol because of my religious beliefs. She is very demanding, at times I am forced to borrow money to give her to make her happy. My parents told me point blank that they do not want her as their daughter-in-law. Please advise, I am confused.
Response
Greetings dear writer, thank you for writing in. After you turn 18 you are considered a major so as it stands, I can only advise you, but the ultimate decision remains yours. They say birds of a feather flock together. The circles she is moving in do not seem good. You know her better than most people. As a couple what kind of advice do you give each other? If the alcohol consumption bothers you, it will snowball if not addressed now. Furthermore, you do not buy happiness by giving someone money, especially if you must go out of your way and borrow. You will end up in debt and that is not good at all. It seems like you are really stretching yourself thin and compromising a lot. If you love and really want to give it your all go for pre-marital counselling. Try an unearth what your vision and future will look like with this woman. Are you two different people or can you become a single functional entity? I would be happy to hear from you again.
